Things for us to think about. I did used to take privileges away from her when she got violent with me. She does speak, but for a while, things got pretty bad and she shredded my journal with her sharp. I was so mad, I ripped up her calendar picture of a wolf. (not good times). When she would SI on me, I would take away her wolf stuffy. We got to a point where we were able to communicate better and not resort to those measures.
But with T very close to death from cancer, she is near hysterical and nearly back to being "feral" at times. T was the one person in this world who looked on her with absolute love, tenderness, and understanding - and saw the potential. They had a very special bond. and that is going to be very difficult. This past year, T has stayed in contact with us -even as individual selves - and written to us all. Her death will be very hard for us.... I'm not even sure how to help my wolf child.... T always said "I was raised by wolves", and even tho the two of them REALLY got into it once, they were super close and understood each other in ways the rest of me never quite got.
Right now I am working on restraining her howl of anguish that is building up (at this topic) so that the neighbors don't call the police or crisis team on me.
Ideas?