I think that is where the problem often occurs. Someone makes a thread asking questions about their situation, but when people honestly reply and the poster realizes people don't perceive their situation the way they do, they become offended. But this is a public forum made up of dozens of active posters with different backgrounds, different experiences, different issues, different takes on life. To expect everyone to completely agree with you just isn't realistic.

If you ask questions, then either be willing to hear a variety of opinions because that is what you are going to inevitably get, or take the responsibility from the start to define what you are looking for in replies. But if this forum is only about echoing what posters have already said, what really is the point of conversation.

I get that at times people just need to vent. Then say that from the start and request no opinions about your vent. We've all been there; we get that.

I get that at times people need opinions but know they are in a fragile state. I respect and appreciate those that say that and clearly ask for gentle replies. They are being proactive for themselves and helpful to those of us that reply. We've all been there; we get that.

But if a poster posts and asks questions without any caveat about what kind of replies they are looking for, so long as the replies are not abusive or harrassing in nature (and I've seen them get that way so I'm not saying they don't), then that should be okay. If you realize after replies start coming in that you've changed your mind and you really don't want honest opinions (and I can see how that happens), rather than getting angry with replies that aren't mean but simply have a different take on a situation that you aren't ready to look at, then just acknowledge that and clarify what you are looking for in responses. Alternately you can ask to have your thread closed or removed if it has become too triggering for you. You can place certain posters on ignore if their replies are too upsetting to you.

We can't be expected to read minds and know what posters want, nor should we be reprimanded for posting replies, often carefully thought out, that aren't deemed supportive when they were meant to be and intended to be, but simply not received that way because they don't concur with what the OP was really wanting to hear. If you asked people to define what support is, I suspect we would get a wide variety of responses, and I also suspect people would admit that even their own idea of what support they need varies with their own situation.

We do the best we can here in our very fallable, human way.