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Originally Posted by hankster
Supportive doesnt mean agree with, necessarily. If somebody feels bad about something, what is there to agree with? You can say, i understand why you would feel that way. Or, yeah that would make me feel lonely too, or whatever. That might open up a dialogue on the main feeling (lonely) rather than the person's "rightness" in feeling lonely. Whether you are right or wrong to feel lonely - ??? - you still FEEL lonely. Or whatever.
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Mostly I, for example, just want to be heard. I don't want to be given advice or told what I should do. I feel lonelier when everyone piles on and tells me why my feelings are wrong or what I should do instead. Often I actually do know what for me I should do. I even usually know I will eventually do it. But here, I just want to be able hear about what others do and get to tell what I do without criticism.