I'm sorry so much upset is happening to people that you care about.

I don't think it's that bad things happen to any one person in particular-- things-- good and bad-- just happen. I have found that if I try to put reason to it--then it can make me feel like I'm losing my mind... don't know if it will work for you but I've found-- after so so many upsetting things happen-- that I have to accept that things DO just happen-- no rhyme or reason-- it just is.....

things happen to good and bad people pretty much the same-- IMO... I think life can have struggles at times and if we try to focus on the good things the bad things maybe won't weigh us down quite so much.

Canders-- you sound like a very good friend to care so much about others struggles-- with a kind heart.

mandy