Dazed, hello and welcome to the boards here.

I think it is a matter of "personal taste" in this regard but I find this board to be by far the best balanced in terms of "pity party management"

Of COURSE it is OK to post when you are frustrated. One of the best uses for these forums is to vent frustration expecially with regard to stresses that people without depression cannot understand.

I think most people here agree that it is only a problem when people post about their problems but never take any advice or action to do anything about those problems. It can become frustrating when help is available and people won't avail themselves of that help.

I don't think that is what you are talking about. People post their problems here and get advice and support but also many times it is understood that a particular problem is expressed simply to vent and get it out of their system. We often do run "official" somewhat tonge-in-cheek pity party threads here as well. I think we all understand that it can be comforting to do that sometimes, as long as it is not something you do to hide from life or from your problems. Even if you are taking a lot of action toward solving problems, sometimes it is just good to take a break and share some cyber-cake and some cyber-drinks.

Please post as much or as little as you feel comfortable. Even when people have advice to offer I don't think I ever see people offer it with a critical tone, we all want to help and we all also want to feel safe here. There are rare exceptions of course but that is the nature of a public community.