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Old Sep 24, 2004, 12:11 PM
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First off NO problems are too small to post if they are important to YOU. The one thing that your problems have that make them more effecting than anyone elses is that they are yours, and you should never feel like they shouldn't be a problem. As an example, I have been having a lot of stress about losing my house, yet I am well aware that many people here do not own homes and some are homeless, yet they understand from my frame of reference how stressful this issue is for me.

Being out of country must make things very difficult. One of the worst symptoms of depression is the urge to isolate oneself... we cut ourselves off from friends, family, doctors, co workers... we suffer alone and feel as if we have no one to help even though we are actively pushing people away. It is a horrible thing. Being out of your home country I can only imagine that the situation itself has done 3/4 of the "isolation work" that your depression has subcontracted without any extra effort. Wanting to not even deal with the housekeeper is likely just your depression working to attempt to isolate you even further. Knowing that doesn't necessarily help, but try to keep in mind that these effects are symptoms of the illness itself, not some deficiency in yourself or in the way you are handling the depression. Isolation isn't a habit that worsens the depression, it IS the depression.

It would likely benefit you very much to be able to see a therapist and/or a doctor about this. See if you can find any resources that will help. Maybe there is a clinic in the area that can see you for free or at a reduced rate. Some clinics work on a sliding scale based on what you can afford.

See what you can find or work out. And keep coming here for support and understanding. Others may also have some advice on treatment options for people in foreign lands.

Good luck and keep posting.
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