Looks like a good accident Mouse... LOL.. I have actually been thinking a lot about that exact thing from reading these threads.

I know from where I am at now and reading responses here that being a 'client' is hard but I have also come to realize how hard it must be for t's also.

I know I have always been screwed up in my thinking, but I never realized the extent that people all want or expect different things from people, especially their t's. I am SOOOOOO different then many here in my wishes. I started with my t because I was trying to get my husband to get help but when his mental health got very bad and he started going to the hospitals, I began talking to the t in what I planned to be about managing an eating disorder. from there.... wam!

So, I began one way and now acknowledged things over the past year that I had locked away, pushed away, ignored and learned to live around. From that eating disorder to PTSD to admitting I removed all emotion to survive, and now about to step into the fire and somehow start 'working' hard core on opening this chaotic box in 2 weeks.

I know if I had t's like some people here talk about and WANT, I could NEVER open up. The thought of a t that waited for me to bring things, up, start conversations, plan what to say, etc.... would have me out the door in a heartbeat. Some people talk about being offended by 'pushy' t's but I have a problem with guilt of saying anything to anyone and I have to have him ask in order to be allowed to say anything. I so wish he would push me harder so I could say more. I know it is supposed to be my job to talk, but I just can't make myself do it. Maybe my therapy wishes are wrong, but it is what I need to be able to even say a word.

I do find it interesting how what one person wants another would find offensive and each of us are absolutely correct in how we feel. I can't imagine the struggle for some t's trying to do what is right for each person when people want such different things.

Don't know if that really addresses what you started, but I had been thinking about this myself.