This is probably going to sound really stupid but I wondered if anyone had any advice to help me.

Earlier there was a minor negative interaction in my house, not an argument but someone got upset over something external to everyone else (something happened to her - wasn't done by anyone) and then as she was upset and acting angry, everyone got drawn into the drama and emotions were high. I'm sensitive so these things throw me of balance, even though there are no arguments as such. I'm being vague I know.

So later things calm down slightly but this family member still wasn't very happy which I know is okay but she wasn't talking to anyone and I got irritated by this. I found it rude that she didn't involve herself in the conversation even when I attempted to actively bring her into it. But she didn't want to talk for whatever reasons she had.

After she leaves, to vent my frustration at the situation I tell my mum that I feel angry when the family member acts rude. Or I more said "I hate it when so and so is rude". My mum didn't say anything - nothing, no sound, no remark, no nothing. Clearly she didn't agree with me, which I understand and is fine but the complete lack of any feedback - even if to say "oh I think she's just a bit stressed out" or whatever would have helped. Acknowledgement I'd spoken at least. Anyway, I waited and waited and nothing - until she said "mmm". Then I was upset at the lack of any response and left the room.

I'm not saying any part of this interaction was right or wrong - it just was, life is complicated. And I know I didn't handle a lot of it well. But now my emotions are high and I feel ignored and I need someone to respond to me.

Okay getting to the actual question - I can't email my therapist just to get it out as she's on a break so although it would be cathartic just to email, she'll read in three weeks later and it'll just clogg up her inbox. Plus I want to deal with this without using a therapist. I messaged my friend and told her I was annoyed and she was lovely - but it hasn't helped and its been maybe 4 hours now since this all happened. It's hard because then the self harm urges escalate.

How do I make myself feel heard when I have no one to talk to? I don't want to go over this with other friends, as it isn't that big a deal but how would you feel better in this situation? I can't imagine what my therapist would say - maybe do something nice? But that wouldn't make me feel heard - which is what I want.

Apologies that this is quite a cryptic and convoluted story, any help is appreciated.