I'm in a bit of a catch22 there, if a therapist doesn't know how I actually am then of course they can't offer me any practical solutions even if they are that kind of therapist. Tell them how I actually am, then they insist I couldn't possibly be in spite of the heavy body of evidence to the contrary, not the least of which being my psychiatric/psychological records.

I find that attitude in therapists to be incredibly rude and downright disrespectful. If I am actually taking the time to be honest with a therapist then I am entitled to being respected for who and what I am and actually offered some decent advice for what things could use modification that are causing me interpersonal difficulties...