I'm with the above poster, this horrible situation most likely exacerbated your bipolar. When you are in position to do so I'd recommend seeing a Pdoc again. But meanwhile kudos to you for taking charge of your life both physically and in your marriage. She can't accept it!!! She created the situation it's time for her to face the consequences. I think it's awesome that you have endured the things you have and still managed to do the right things.