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I transferred universities last year. I moved to a new place and made some acquaintances, hung out with my best friend (who goes to the university) and her friends, dated a guy & hung out with his friends and was doing well in school. Then I seemed to lose control of things. My grades started to drop (I was not on adderall then), I broke up with my boyfriend, my best friends moved to another state, I had a death in the family and I've had trouble making friends. So over the past couple of months I've been kinda in a slump. I had, nay have mild social anxiety due to my adhd but my bestfriend and boyfriend were social butterflies, so I hung out with a lot of people. I worked through my slump with my doctor. I'm on adderall, grades are up,I learned how to be alone, I feel great and I'm ready to get back on the social scene. The thing is, I realised that I have no friends of my own and hanging out with my ex's friends would be weird (Not that I've received an invitation). My best friend was a year older, so most of her friends are graduating or have graduated. I'm so used to having people around in my life that I think I've kinda forgotten how to meet new people or talk to them. I'm a transfer student and a junior in college, so most people have their group of friends already. I feel silly joining a club alone, again dependency issues. I have no problem talking to people or hanging out once a friendship is established but the initiation of a conversations/ asking people if they want to hang out is still something new. Any ideas? or maybe share a story of how you make friends or deal with anxiety?
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