I think most of us have had unpleasant experiences here and when it happens over and over you have to wonder why.

Ultimately it's a choice to come here though. Recently for me it's been a good exercise in learning that some people are just abusive and mean no matter how much therapy they receive and I'm glad we have the ignore button. I was personally attacked and people thanked the attacker. That was sad, but I realized I can only control me, not other people.