Sorry for the long response... And if it's off topic

I have contacted a moderator numerous times to try to understand what's right and what's not okay. Some moderators are great at explaining things to me. Others... I just asked to be referred to the ones who do explain.

As far as recently, I try to stay off of others posts. I worry that because of my own current issues, I cannot be fully supportive as I would want to be. Last thing I want it to make something worse for someone else. So I just stick to my one thread mostly for now.

As for appreciation of other members, I realize we are all different and are at different places in our lives. For those who read my thread, those who stop in to say hi, or those who post, I appreciate them all. I appreciate opinions, perspectives, and advice even if I don't agree with them. The only thing I don't like is rudeness or pushing one's own beliefs on me. But still, it means a lot that anyone read a post of mine, so I read all the posts and thank them all. No one is required to read or respond to anything, so I am grateful for each and everything I do receive.

For those who feel ignored, I actually do understand. For quite awhile I felt the same here. In fact, what really changed things for me was my recent trauma with losing my T. Before that, I struggled with feeling like I fit in. I struggled with getting to know the different people here and what type of support they were looking for. And because I didn't know how to respond, I wound up starting a few arguments But I just kept going back to the moderators to figure out what I was doing.

We do have some great moderators here on PC.

And lastly, about the original topic of diagnosing... imo it's a fine line. Some OPs compare themselves to a diagnosis or even say they have a diagnosis. It's a normal human thing to try to organize and categorize things. There is already a disclaimer at the bottom of the page: "The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice,
diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here." So I don't "think" people are intentionally trying to diagnose anyone. I have BPD. If someone said "Scarlet, you're seeing things in black and white like BPD", that's not them diagnosing. Even if I didn't have BPD and they said that, I wouldn't see that as diagnosing. And if I thought their perception is wrong, I would say so.

The only thing I see as a major issue is when people "hop on the bandwagon" with things. Transference is a big one. Not everyone suffers from transference but that is what some seem to think. Or I see an OP disagree with something so a bunch of people try to convince the OP otherwise. And what's frustrating for me, I want to step in and speak up for the OP, but then I get "in trouble" for being part of the disagreement. (One of the main reasons I'm not posting as much).

Idk. I like this place. You all have been here when I really truly needed you. PC isn't perfect. There's no such thing as Utopia. And we all make up this forum so we each have to take some responsibility too.

For those who feel left out, please don't give up. Keep posting. Bump your own thread. Not everyone responds, but the majority of us do read. You are cared about. Just sometimes our own life gets in our way.