Welcome to the forum. I can relate to your story. I have lost a decent carreer, a good pay-check, marriage and a lot of friends. I don`t know if I have any great advice, only what has worked for me. Basically medication, theraphy and trying as hard as I can to have a diet and a lifestyle that doesn`t make my BP worse. (The last is really hard!)But here it comes; one piece of advice. Have you had your wife come with you to a session with the person who is treating you (doc, psychiatrist etc)? That might help her in dealing with your symptoms. And also, could family theraphy be an option?