I don't really care about people's gender, but generally I often find women more interesting than men (men and women are equally shallow and ditzy IMO, it just depends on the person - I don't really hang in crowds where anyone is particularly much shallow or stereotypical). I think it is because with women, sex doesn't get in the way. To clarify: I don't really have that much sex. I've had quite a few sex partners, but also had dry spells of a year or even more. So it's not that I always get attracted to men or anything. It is just that I feel they look at me differently because there is some primal drive in them that makes them think about sex first when they see a woman. I have a lot of wonderful male friends, and I think they are past that point with me, we are basically like siblings now. What confuses and angers me, is that even if we (we are a friend group of both men and women), the women in our group, talk a lot about what we hate when men do, or about respectless, rude, gross or even creepy men you meet when going out, some of my male friends still act like that. Not towards us, but towards other women. This enrages me. It is as though they do not understand that other women would probably feel the same about it as we do, or something. I don't understand it. That makes me a bit angry with men, because it makes me think they don't really care how women feel about their advances, they feel entitled - even if they have female friends or sisters who tell them how uncomfortable it is.

That being said, I also have some really wonderful male friends. Particularly the ones that are 1) in a relationship or 2) identify as feminists, and thus are very aware of the sexual harassment etc. women face. They also get angry when other men act like this. So I know not all men do. And gay men, I love them because they never see you as a sex object at all. One of my best friends is a gay man, and I feel that he does not see me as a competitor as some types of women do and he does not see me in a sexual way. It is just about our personalities, we have a lot of things in common. I am sure people think we're together when we're out, we hold hands and stuff sometimes, it's just because we feel so safe being with each other and we have a lot of fun. I have never had any sexual or otherwise attraction to him and I know he hasn't with me. And I know he will never think of women sexually and thus not see them differently (which I think some men do, involuntarily or not, when they think of the women they talk to and see comitting sexual acts with them - in a way I think it sort of degrades women in many men's minds, but I am not always sure they realize this).