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Originally Posted by NyxAngel
I love my family, for a large portion of my life they have been the only people in it. I can count on them for nearly anything, and they are nearly always there to help. They make up the foundations of who I am. They are the rocks I beat myself upon when I make mistakes. I am destroying every relationship I have with every member of my family. They are tired of dealing with me and I can not blame them, I am tired of dealing with me, as well.
How does your mental illiness effect your familial relationships?
How do you keep from burning bridges when your life is on fire?
Any tips for mitigating the damage you do to the people around you?
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They are tired of dealing with me and I can not blame them, I am tired of dealing with me, as well.
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in a way contradicts the idea that you're saying that you can count on them and taht they are always there to help. perhaps they always do help but that comment implies there is some resentment in you, in them or all around. The idea that you can say "I can't blame them" says to me that you have a rather low opinion of yourself and it doesn't help with relationships in which you need support from others. It puts you in a situation where you're a bit of a subordinate to others rather than equals. Unlike two equal and mutually respecting friends, where the support is never limited, or conditional nor do the two either get "tired of one's sh**"
Just because they are family does not mean they are the best fit for gaining support from.
How does your mental illiness effect your familial relationships?
it doesn't anymore. I do not deal with extended family beyond my 3 kids, two of which I am the single parent to. I would speculate that it would not be very accepted in my past family to open up to them about my issues I have had.
How do you keep from burning bridges when your life is on fire?
I don't. If the bridge only leads to pain an suffering and judgemental family... I say BURN IT DOWN!
Any tips for mitigating the damage you do to the people around you?
I would say self discovery, is a great help in understanding who you are, what you do and why you do the things that you say damage others around you. The more you know and understand yourself, regardless of if you ever have a full recovery from your issues, the more you'll be able to learn to cope with things and do things to avoid such damaging situations. Know yourself. Accept what and who you are.