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I dont think he is getting pushed to marry as he needs his parent accept to marry ( now again, crazy )and even need a yes from a sheik. Long story. I think its because he see an opportunity to try the same as before since he did a mistake back then
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Just wondering if all his other plans didn't work out either the way he wanted them to & maybe parents are pushing him to get married because he's getting older & not married & maybe no one else will agree to him marrying their daughter because he is divorced so maybe his parents feel that you are the only choice that's still left & since you married him before & were so devastated because of the divorce initially they think you will jump at the chance to marry him this time.
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He said this while I was his wife! And another time he said "I feel for you, but I dont feel very very much for you" The he said "I didnt say I didnt love you" when I asked so you dont love me?. I think this is what broke my heart the most.
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Remember, he might not be as abusive as it's the culture he's brought up in.....marriages are usually arranged & not for LOVE & many times the wife is looked at as property & not a partner wife, It sounds like you weren't very aware of the culture that you were marrying into either & definitely had different expectations than he did out of the marriage even if it had worked out. It does seem obvious that the green care thing was probably his highest priority to use you for.
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I have been thinking a lot again, and I do have a plan that I think will work fine. Most likely my xhusband is not going to like it and probably get slightly defensive and withdraw from his idea to marry again or he will understand. Either way it puts me in a favored situation and I dont think he is ever going to handle it. I need to do this my way because I know already I am not going to be able to say just no.
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Just beware because many times a guy who is good at manipulating will end up agreeing with you just to manipulate you into the marriage then afterward not end up going along with it after it's too late for you to JUST SAY NO. I know that my situation wasn't as serious as yours but I had a whole list of things that I threw at my fiance before we got married & told him that if there was any problem with any of them, I didn't want to get married because of the red flags that I saw with him. He agreed with me on everything. When I finally left him 33 years later, I asked him why he had agreed with me when in reality, he hadn't agreed with any of the things I sat out as being my demands in the marriage. He said that he didn't believe that I really meant what I said so he went ahead & agreed with me on everything
......what an idiot!!!!! Guess he wanted to get married a lot more than I did. Those red flag issues I had with him caused me to NEVER respect him & honestly I never did love him....I just hadn't realized it until I was able to look back at the marriage after I finally left....I could see all the bad things so much more clearly just as you are doing.
Just be careful if it does end up agreeing to your plan that it's an honest agreement & that he's not just manipulating you in order to get you to do what he wants.
I am a little surprised that a sheik would agree to him marrying someone who is born again & of a different religion unless they figure they will be able to bring you over to his religion especially if you are living in HIS country....that could be a very dangerous situation for you not only mentally but physically......be ware & be careful.