I don't know how to handle my fiancé's bipolar. We've been together for three years. He's been pretty much homeless the whole time we've been together except when he's lived with me or we've lived together. We first started dating long distance when he was going to Teen Challenge Ministry Institute to become a pastor. That's what attracted me to him in the first place. He got kicked out of the school for drinking and smoking marijuana over the Thanksgiving holiday. He's 35, a recovering alcoholic and drug addict and is currently homeless. His father was paying for him to go to therapy and a psychiatrist after his younger brother passed away. He received medication but never really took it no more than a couple days and then he stopped going to his appointments. We got an apartment together last year and we got kicked out because of his mood swings and temper tantrums. He tried to fight people in the apartment complex, threaten them, yelled a lot and broke our door and punched holes in our walls. He has an extremely huge anger problem, and he cannot keep a job for no more than a month. He's had about 7 jobs since we've been together, and everyday he works, he HAS to call me for any reason and when I don't respond exactly how he wants he gets very upset(this has got him fired before)and when he doesn't have a job, he sadly hustles and manipulates people. I honestly think he has some kind of personality disorder other than bipolar. When he was younger he was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline. He never told me this when we first got together. I didn't know until 2 years after being with him. He is completely negative 70% of the time, when nothing goes his way or he's having a bad day but it seems like it's everyday. He hustles people out of their money to get by, or asks his friends and family for help. He is so impulsive with his decisions and paranoid about me cheating on him which I never have. I'm beginning to feel like he isn't reliable to have a future with, that he's not dependable and he can't take care of himself let alone both of us. He's content with how he is living now. I'm close with his mother and she said he's been like this his whole adult life, he's never really had a job, he lost his two children and the same pattern repeats over and over and over with him. He doesn't know how to get along with people without feeling paranoid or people are out to get him. Whenever anybody gives him advice or direction he doesn't take it even if it's a professional, he still thinks he knows what's best for him. He's also depressed and very suicidal. It's hard to be with someone that doesn't want to help themselves and refuses the medication they are given and refuses to go to doctor appointments just because he's having a bad day. I told him to apply for Social Security disability but he doesn't even want to do that because it takes effort. Most of his friends won't talk to him anymore because he only talks to them when he's needs something or try to get money out of them. I love him to death and don't want to give up on him but it's hard to see a future for myself with him. I have a college education and I refuse to be homeless and have him live off of me, I paid most if not all of the bills when we were living together. I feel like he doesn't want to help himself but maybe I just don't understand.