So here's another bombshell he drops on me last night. As I told you, he hasn't been to work since last Thursday. I come home last night and he decides to finally tell me what's going on. He says his boss said he was going to put him on FMLA leave the week before he went into treatment but sends him a text shortly after he gets into treatment saying "I haven't received a form from you yet. When will you get that to me?". He doesn't have his phone at treatment and it's with me so I see the message and relay that message to him. He doesn't see it as a big deal and says he'll call him the next day from treatment. Well apparently he never called him. The boss's boss says he never got anything and he's not going to approve it even though it's apparently somehow the other guy's fault for not clarifying it with H. His boss told him to just get a doctor's note saying why he was out and that will take care of it, but that's basically going and bribing a doctor to write you a note saying you were in treatment before he even was in treatment. H talked to the union rep and such and they basically said it's in his hands to take care of. Since this is his 3rd CAM (Corrective Action Measure) in a year he can either quit, get fired or admit he has a problem and go BACK into treatment and complete the full 21 days and go to the outpatient treatment for 2 months. His only other option is to send a letter to some union person describing his dilemma and hope they just cancel that CAM due to no fault of his own.

All his jumping through hoops and getting away with this BS was eventually going to catch up with him and it has. If he has to go back into treatment, it will not be good. First off, I don't even know if insurance will pay for another stint in there since it hasn't even been a month since he's been out. Plus they will only pay for 14 days anyways. We have to pay out of pocket for him to go through the exact thing he just went through. I am going out of town for a week at the end of May which means if he's in treatment, there won't be anyone here to take care of the cats and the yard for a week which means we'll have to pay a neighbor to do it. More money to pay. I booked myself on an early flight after asking him several times if he'd be able to drive me to the airport because it's too early to take a bus there. He assured me it wouldn't be a problem. If he's not here then I will have to drive down and park there for a week which will cost me over $100. We have friends coming from another country to visit us in early June. If he is in treatment he won't be here for them. He hasn't been to work for a week and I'm sure he won't go back again until he either does his treatment stint or quits which means another month at least with no income from him and me having to pay everything once again.

He just downplays it as "It's just one more thing we'll have to get through". I'm so tired of all the crap he brings on us and it is ALL him! He has high credit card debt due to poor spending habits. He has a collection agency garnishing his paycheck every month due to some bill he never paid 15 years ago and now they say he owes them over $10,000. He convinced me to sign a loan so he could get a motorcycle he just HAD to have but had bad credit and promised me he'd make every payment. Now who's making the $350 payment every month? Me! I constantly have to drain my bank account to cover his *** because he can't pay for his share of anything due to never working but yet doesn't hesitate to put $300 on his credit card for a motorcycle part.The constant drama with his daughter and her mother and the daughter didn't want to see him but he was going to fight and get a parenting plan because he has to one up them and I gave him thousands of dollars for a lawyer so he could do that and a fat lot of good that did. We still only saw her maybe once a month and then last year they had a knock down drag out fight at the top of their lungs that someone called the police to our house. After that she left and we haven't seen her since. The drama at work and not going to work and now the potential of being fired or just him saying "screw it" and quitting. He brings this all on himself. He even admits that he knew he was getting a 2nd CAM last year when he didn't show up for work one day because he was upset about a friend dying but he didn't care. If he hadn't have done that we wouldn't be in this situation now because he'd only have 2 and not 3 CAMs.

I ask myself all the time why do I put up with this crap?