<font color="#000088">I'm almost 34,and I have the same problem.Everytime I would get intimate with any boyfriend of mine, it would feel like I was being raped all over again,but just in my mind,I knew I wasn't because I was with my boyfriend,but I would still freeze up,and go into flashbacks. The same thing happens when I go to the doctor for pelvic exams. So what I did to help that situation with the boyfriend that I had my longest relationship with,was I explained to him what had happened to me when I was young,and I told him about what it was doing when we would get intimate,and asked if he would talk me through it,so it would keep me in the here and now,and to be extra gentle,because of how rough it was when I was young.So he would talk to me while we were intimate,just saying how much he loved me,that kind of stuff,to help me know I was okay,and in the right hands.It really helped. I guess I was lucky to have a guy that understood,and was willing to do that for me.
I hope that helps you at all. </font>