I forgot one thing that may be the most imortant factor that he would withdraw. I will tell him I cant stay married to him if we cant have time together down there as a married couple. The fact he lives at home, he is going to say we cant be making love because we are in his mothers house. But I will say I cant come down there and cant stay married if I cant see proof of his love when down there. There is no way for me to marry him again with same circumstances as first time. I married him after two months, after three four days after meeting him in real. I had no time to see if he really could love me. He didnt. And I will under no circumstances be that follish again and do same naive mistake. And I dont think he will agree to this, telling me we have no place to be private.

Last time we had another flat, we were allowed to stay alone at his sisters and her husbands flat as my xhusband had asked for this, but even so he did not touch me and acted the way he did. It was a huge disappintment, telling me he would wait til he got to my country. Why on earth would he do that when we were already married. For green card.

So I think he will get defensive and withdraw or he may agree and not follow through. But I will stand my ground.