I have found (a generalization) that very often men don't quite know what to do with a crying female.

Have you ever told the men beforehand what you expect of them when you do display an emotional outburst that involves tears?, different responses “expected of them” for different circumstances?, I doubt it, so how the hell are we going to guess the right response?

(In my case, if hubby would just hold me ...) …………..

So have you ever spoken to him about this? Told him this is what you want him to do?

How do you feel about a woman crying as a response to her feelings?

I know women are more emotional then men, so I accept the fact there are going to be times in my life, for some reason or other, at one time or another, I am going to have to deal with a teary eyed, emotional female and not have a clue has to which way to respond, I say this because I have been there, in this exact spot on more than one occasion, and after extensive “training” I have found that the best response is to stand there and do nothing, and wait for her to make the first move, If you want a hug, then hug me, if you want me to do something else then tell me what, if you do nothing and stand there ballin at me, then I really don’t know what to do, so I will stand back looking all embarrassed, not for me, for you, which will only further compound the reasons you started crying in the first place, which starts the entire circle again, only this time is not the same reasons you were crying over last time so the response is different again, damn!!

How do I deal with it? I remain single.

Do you feel angered and unsympathetic?

Only when I don’t know the full reason / s (subject to change) why you are crying at me in the first place, of course sometimes I feel angered, that’s threw frustration born by not knowing fully what’s going on, because you never say anything beforehand, then its BAM, couldn’t think of a better word sorry, and a whole shower of “excrement” is headed my way, how would you react if the rolls were reversed?

Or are you able to comfort?

If I know fully what is going on and understand the situation then yes I would say I am able to comfort, (that is also subject to change)

I also know when I am not wanted, loved or respected and that your taking your anger out on me has a man in the form of, well, what some would call “emotional blackmail” to try and illicit a response from the man, to your satisfaction, or not, by using your tears has some type of primordial weapon, to which we men have no defence,

who, when your tears stop do you think needs the most support?

The woman who has just gotten it all of her chest?,

Or, the man who now has to try and make sense of what has just been said, or done, react accordingly, to your satisfaction, and eventually after a smoke, (hic), stand up and be a man and not cry himself, in front of you?

So next time you get on your man for not reacting properly to an impossible situation for him, created by you, just remember you have that freedom to cry in public because society expects it, and to a large part has accepted it has female culture, just don’t be to surprised to see your man out on the street, on his ***, blind drunk, looking for a fight after a tearful argument,

you cry, we fight, same result, everyone can climb back into there own bubble feeling justified, cant we?