Thank you for your response Mellors - I appreciate your thoughtful post and I am going to spend some more time studying it when the glass of wine is not so full.
I did sense a little bit of antagonism towards me in your post and I would like to assure you, that my questions to you were in no way disrespectful but rather borne out of a grudging respect at some of your rather curiously sensitive comments about women.
I asked you the questions, which you have truthfully answered .. so I guess defending myself is out of the question.
Sigh! I have been wanting to ask you this for days! Well, I really do appreciate your honesty and will most certainly be back to study your post in more detail!