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Originally Posted by CosmicRose
I was crying earlier today because I asked my ex why he broke up with me and he said it was because he thought I'm not living up to my full potential. I'm in my very early 20s and I live with my elderly dad who needs a lot of help with his numerous health issues. I'm not going to college at the moment because I need to take out a loan in order to pay for it and I'm struggling financially right now, I quit my job because it was based on commission and I'm in the process of looking for full time work. He also told me that he thought I wasn't Christian or religious enough. I cried today for an hour after he told me that's why he broke up with me, because I'm going through a difficult time right now and just to hear him say that to me (he's a lot more successful than me) made me feel like absolute dirt.
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Don't let someone like that bring you down. Truth is that he's not worth your energy to cry about even though I understand why you would. Anyone that would take the time to assert that they think another person is not "living up to their potential" and is the basis for breaking things off, whether friendship or a romantic relationship, first needs to take a good hard look in the mirror and at society and realize that 99% of the world including them probably doesn't live up to their potential, it's a life long thing to work on! Second, if he truly views you in such a condescending manner as that, he is just an arrogant jerk that thinks way too highly of himself than he should. Move on, please.
As for the Christian enough... wtf. How is one Christian "enough"? I thought one was either Christian or NOT, not levels of Christian-ness. Religiousness itself also does not make one more of a believer than another and how you express your faith is your business and no one's to judge.
You are not dirt. You're a person, who sounds like you have struggles, but at 20 who doesn't struggle with life? I know very few 20 somethings that have it all together. I'm 47 and now just really hitting my stride. you sound like you're doing your best to do what you can and on top of that doing what others cannot - your father. Take heart, I'm sure you're in a good place with regards to what you're doing and challenges, struggles do not define whether a person has value or not, it's what they do with those things that does
