I lived like that for 31 years. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. The things you were taught did not/are not working. Sadly a lot of children brought up in abusive home will marry someone like the abuser or become an abuser.

I would suggest counseling for yourself. I am 68 now and amazed I got myself out of that nightmare marriage. The one sentence that helped me: "Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself.....win."

I hope you will read that book and get counseling. Don't bother discussing anything important with him; he/they just use it against you. He is angry and unless he thinks he has a problem (most abusers do not), he will never change.

Did you know that abuse can cause all kinds of physical illnesses? Every time you are under stress, the body releases cortisol. Cortisol damages the immune system.

Take that hate and anger and use it to do something positive for yourself. No one deserves to be treated/disrespected like that.

You can also call the Domestic Violence Hotline and get help.