I've read through this thread and for an intelligent woman, I still can't figure out why you haven't left.


Was it inferred somewhere?


You said initially you didn't want the kids coming from a broken home, then admitted its badly broken now anyway.


Then you moved on to say you were taught to be mute, but your thread alone alludes to the fact you disagree with that teaching, which is good, because not everything we are taught is right or good. Also you clearly have a voice, and are making use of it here.


The last clue is your hubz and MIL making your life hell...


Really? Because from here it doesn't look like it can get any worse.

He has never had any inclination to work, and he's verbally abusive, so getting full custody shouldn't even be an option.

I mean how would a sane judge choose him over you?


MIL? How does she get a leading part in this play?


The way I see it?


You've been a single parent, autonomously running your family and household this entire time.

You may as well make it official and throw his free loading lazy abusive a.s.s to the curb.

At least that way you don't have the weight of a heavily decayed marriage on your shoulders and you get a chance to be happy while you're at it.


You're an adult, you get to choose how to live your life, so don't allow others to choose for you, especially when the last thing on their minds is your happiness, wellbeing and best interests.


We only get one shot on this ole spinning rock, make it worth it.