I would get into counseling for YOURSELF. He is obviously on some kind of power/control trip. you aren't his keeper or babysitter, and unless he recognizes that his behavior is a problem you will live like this for he rest of your life.

I got out of an abusive 31 year marriage. We ALL have a backbone; it is just deciding to use it. If you are willing to put up with this dysfunctional marriage, you will be miserable and HE will be happy. After all, he thinks it is great. Who woudn't....no responsibilities...which is usually what a child has.

The question is, what are you getting out of this? It must be something or you would want to leave....I know that is difficult...I went back and forth (reading/therapy) before I was able to leave. "Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself.....win." That was helpful to me. In other words, you will be a "doormat" until you decide that it isn't working for you anymore.

Boundaries...an excellent book...by Townsend and Cloud.......I highly recommend it...bigtime.

You don't have a husband.....you have a child.