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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
He is punishing "you" for his own insecurities Seeyalater. He has "no right" to come home from work angry and demand sex from you. He "tricked" you into signing away your rights to that house, he did not like it when you found out about that either. He also wants nice things and a bank account but he doesn't like "working for these things". He doesn't really want to give "you" anything. He accuses "you" of not being satisfied with a smaller modest home, in reality it was something "he" did not want, after all he did make sure you signed off on any ownership, he prefers to be grandious.
He is ashamed of his own feelings, doesn't like you to see or hear them either. He has been told to "man up" and it could be that his father was/is narcissistic. He reacts to you with blame and anger, also reacts to others that way too. Getting help means having to share his feelings, he considers that "weak" so he refuses to see anyone. He obviously doesn't know how to deal with people, hense he is very unhappy at work too.
He works out obsessively, he needs to look in the mirror and be pleased with himself.
There are a lot of red flags that you already are finding out mean "trouble" for you. As I mentioned, after you finish school have a list to discuss the "facts" of what you are experiencing with a therapist.
You never answer the question of if he may be taking steriods either. Well, that is also very important.
OE
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Thank you. Tomorrow is the final day of class. I am done and so excited. I continued to get straight A's, ride a roller coaster without seat belts, my team went to the play offs and is now done, work, and continued with a crazy life.
Yes, blame and anger. He says its all my fault and today is still upset how I found out about the house being in his name only. At this point it really doesnt matter. Its public record. Since the day I told him about finding out about the house, he has dwelled on it asking a bunch of questions. A few people asked how can he throw you out of your own house when your married and its in both your names (so I thought). My mom asked the same question. Since my mom is one that asked me the question. He now is telling me he lost respect for my mom. She should of never of asked and he will never go around her.
Anything that happens is my fault but Im not worried anymore. In my eyes I made it through the hardest part if my life.
Steroids. I don't know. He usually doesn't take aspirin or will take anything but at this point I have no idea. I wish I could answer that for you.
Thank you