Oh, I am so happy for you and you did so well too, good for you.

Hmm, he is obcessing about how you found out that he tricked you with the signing off on the house? That is another red flag, he is only angry when "his control" is questioned, even now angry at your mother too. He sounds very unstable and even paranoid too. Please be careful, the last thing you need is him acting out his pent up anger and deep fears on you. Let him think he has control for now so you can finish school and figure out what you want to do next. Don't play up finishing school or give him anything to feel jealous or inadequate about. Build "him" up some if you can, "Oh honey, thank you SO much for helping with school, I will pay you back so you can get something nice for your lovely boat or do something for "you". If he asks about your mother, just keep your answer something like, "oh she's just being a mom, what does she know?"

I think he is terrified you are going to abandon him and he is testing you in bad ways too, very unhealthy ways, so do your best to keep him calm. If he pushes the house topic, just say you are fine with it, after all, he bought it and pays the bills etc. Don't say you are hurt either, if he is a narcissist he won't respond well to that, could even make him angry and suspicious.

I suggest you keep things as calm as possible until you can meet with a therapist and talk about what is going on. None of us here are professionals, I am not diagnosing him either, that is for a professional to do. For all I know he is overwhelmed and very insecure and frightened inside and he doesn't know what to do with these challenging emotions either, some people can get very angry when that takes place, so it's better not to provoke that to take place and keep things "calm" if you can.

People are very complex, react to things in ways others may not understand, a lot has to do with how they can manage their own emotions, some just really struggle with things they have never talked about but are challenged with on a deep level they keep to themselves. He has expressed this in a big way with you when he did not want you to see him struggle yet curled up in a ball too.

My therapist told me he had a breakdown, a bad one and had to sort through his deep challenges with a therapist himself. Some therapists do experience that, don't realize their own problems until they break, however some actually heal while they help others heal. Unfortunately a lot of men "think" that having to get help to let it out means someone is weak, they are often told that by their parents, or even society too. Yet, because my therapist knows first hand how it feels, he has helped me a great deal, helped me be "ok" with expressing my own very challenged feelings that others around me kept dismissing which only made me worse.

Some people carry very deep wounds, want to love but are actually terrified of it so they push it away. Those who get help can work through it, yet others never do and they get mean and push people away to "self protect".

So go "easy" with him and after tomorrow get some help. You know, it's ok to learn about these challenges, no one is expecting you to "just know".

((Hugs))
OE