I have pretty much the same triangle of thoughts.

My core-beliefs don't match up with really, well, anything. My core beliefs and how I feel/think about others tends to make me seem like a hypocrite.

There are times where I can list off things that I consider good in others... that I have in common... but I always end up following it up with something to disqualify it.

Although I don't really ever share any of my low-self-esteem thoughts with my friends, or anyone really. Because I don't want to annoy or piss them off, and who wants to hear the negativity? So I keep it to myself.