Hi, and first of all welcome to Psychcentral

You sound like you really want a good relationship with someone who accepts you for who you are. Don't we all? It's okay to take your time to get to know people and connect with them. You don't have to be outgoing like "everyone else", or how everyone else seems to be outgoing (because not everyone is) to establish a good relationship. There are people here who are in the same boat as you, and there will be people who understand you and vice versa.