Hi Raynedaze1

I started seeing someone after being separated. I was tossing and turning at night, waking up at four, eating chocolate bars. I paid attention to what my gut was telling me and examined what I was doing. I tried to analyse if my behavior was healthy, if my boyfriend was behaving in a consistent and well balanced way. I talked to my friends describing our relationship. Then I looked at my fears, my past hurts. Then I explained my concerns to my boyfriend and said we should break it off. He kept talking to me, and I discovered I was really scared of hoping for something again. So, we are back together. I can break up anytime if we start showing unhealthy behavior, but it would be silly to do so just for my fears. I didn't know it is okay to walk away when something is not working. This is still very scary. Good luck.