Yes I can see that he has reacted that way. So, as I mentioned, you need to recognize the signs and I honestly think he does need help, all you can do is seek out help on your own and perhaps a therapist can help you with this challenge as you "do" need to take care of "you" in this situation.

It is actually not unusual for someone struggling like he is to react negatively to getting help.

Perhaps you can look up "stress breakdown" if you get a chance. I did that briefly and the one thing that it discussed is to do one's best to listen as well as help the person struggling to stay calm and what I suggested, mention what this person has done that is "good" because often their self esteem is extremely threatened. One of the symtoms it discusses is pushing friends away, which is what your husband is doing.

Sometimes it can get so bad that a person must know when a forced intervention is needed too. These are things you can discuss when you talk with a therapist too Seeya.

I think your husband is "trying" to talk about it, but he really doesn't know how, most just don't understand "what" is happening to them when they are in danger of having a stress breakdown.