I just want to say here Seeya, that while some posters may suggest being hard on him, that may be the wrong way to address this, keep in mind NO ONE is a professional here offering advice. I personally recommend that before you make any decisions that you do get "professional" advice. This way you have "help" for yourself, and you also make sure you are not hurting him in some way. I am sure you don't want to do that either. However, you do have to make sure you protect yourself because one thing I have noticed is your husband is not really thinking about "you" in what you have shared here. That concerns me. If you feel in any way threatened "leave", you need to think about your own safety.