Hi Tokidoki,

I think it is important to talk with your therapist about your concerns, and about what you wish to discuss and work on in therapy. There are different kinds of therapy, and also different ways of working in therapy. A good therapist should be able to work with you and honor your wishes regarding what you wish to discuss (and what you don't).

I think it also helps to be able to tell the therapist if therapy is going too fast, or you feel too upset when you leave a session - even when it happens at the first session. That's useful information for the therapist, so they can get a better idea of how to work with you better.

It may be true that you and your therapist may decide to discuss past issues with time. I think many people find that helpful who have had difficult events in their past. It has been helpful for me, as others have described here. But there are many helpful topics that can be discussed and worked on in therapy, without focussing on past events.

Thinking of you and wishing you well.

Take care,
ErinBear