Before I started reading these boards, I had no idea how common it is for men to be bothered by their wives' or girlfriends' sexual past. So you're far from being alone.

After I read the remarks that your wife makes to you, all I could think was no wonder you're bothered. I was trying to think of why your wife would say those kind of things to you. It seems like insecurity must be at the root of it, even if it's buried fairly deep. Even if she wants you to get angry at the remarks.

Maybe you can have a discussion with her and agree not to discuss past sexual experiences and also not to make specific remarks about other people now, like how they are attractive or sexually appealing. It would be much more respectful and helpful to your relationship.

Even if you never make the kind of remarks that she does, it may work better to present it as things that the both of you will not discuss or remark on to help strengthen your relationship.

I'm glad you found Psych Central. These boards are a great place to air problems and it's fairly anonymous, which is good for discussing marital problems.

If going to couples therapy is a realistic option for the two of you, I think that would be great.