I feel like my post may have seemed a little too sunshine and rainbows about the transference part, so for people who haven't read my previous threads, here's a bit more of the reality.
I did have a very difficult time at first with the transference for MC. At first, I thought it was just erotic/romantic transference. Empathy was something I didn't feel like I was getting from my husband. It was difficult sometimes sitting in sessions when I was upset about something, with my husband on one side of me barely reacting at all, while my MC was on the other side of me being very empathic and caring. The difference was glaringly right in front of me. MC is also someone who tends to share a lot about himself and his experiences during sessions, so it felt like I knew him more as a person than my T, who is much more closed about her personal life. (Of course, I don't know MC outside the office, and I"m sure, from what he's said too, that he's not caring and empathic all the time to his wife and kids.)

But the transference, before I talked about it with T or MC, could be very painful, at point with me crying the whole way home from sessions (luckily, H and I drive there separately) because I just wanted so much to be close to MC. I eventually fessed up to my T (one of the hardest things I've ever told her, for some reason), and she helped facilitate my having an individual session with MC. That session with MC, which I cried most of the way through, led me to realize the transference was as much, if not more, paternal than erotic. With me wanting to feel safe and secure, which is how MC made me feel. At the end, he left it open to whether we could have another session to discuss things, with the implication that he was open to it.

H sort of figured out what was up, we discussed it in our next joint session (that was pretty awkward, to say the least!). H had said he'd be open to me having another individual sesssion w/MC, and T had said it would be fine, too. So I broached that topic during the joint session, but MC seemed to keep shutting me down, with comments on boundaries and such. I walked out of that session feeling like I'd been stabbed in the heart, like my chest literally hurt and began sobbing uncontrollably once I got in my car. I left a rambling, 5-minute, weepy message for MC (plus one for T) about feeling rejected and abandoned, etc. (I think it was clear that it wasn't just about him, like this was also about rejection in the past, childhood, etc.) MC called the next morning apologizing profusely, saying he hadn't meant to make me feel that way, etc. We talked about 10 min, then he was like, "Should we go ahead and schedule?"

The next individual session was helpful, and at the end he was saying how attachment isn't necessarily seeing someone all the time, but knowing that they're there if you need them. So he said his door was open to me, if I felt the need/want for another session, anytime. And that meant the world to me--the whole safety/security, not being abandoned thing. That was like a month and a half ago, and I haven't felt the need to schedule anything else aside from our weekly joint sessions.

Too long; didn't read: Transference can be incredibly painful at times, but talking about it can help you get through it (assuming you have a T who is skilled at handling such things).