hey. i think it would be worth it if both you and your husband were able to talk to your t about his not disclosing information that you each offer him confidentially. it might be that he is trying to encourage transparency (which would give him the opportunity to say so) or it might be that he will apologise and not do it again.

i don't think it is good that you are in the uncomfortable position of worrying what you say to him in case he brings it up in couples therapy...

sure lots of people go through divorce without a therapist. lots of people go through divorces that are far from amicable and are filled with bad feelings and hostility and conflict, however.

it is great that you are trying with the communication skills... they can be hard... it might help to practice role playing them in individual therapy? or maybe you can bring up the things you tried in couples therapy?

dunno...