The word itself was not a regular part of my vocabulary until I came to this forum. None of my previous therapist used the word. Then I read here about all the negatives regarding transference in therapy. I demanded that disgusting thing stay out of my therapy or I was backing out. This was through ~6-8 emails back and fourth. Her last email was in caps. "TRANSFERENCE IS WHAT THIS PROCESS IS ABOUT!" I did not know all caps meant she was shouting at me. I struggled with what she said for a couple of days. I was hiding out at an all night cafe continuing to write emails and poetry which was new for me to her about how crappy my parents were, and being abandoned by other therapist. In my last poem I said, "Let the Transference Begin! I surrendered my trust to her. I removed that boundary, but it definitely was not painless. Yet, in the end worth it a million times over.