Thanks to all whom answered!

Several great issues were brought up. i do not care if she would be srinking coffee or eating a candy bar...However crunching up crackers, mixing them in, stirring, and the smell, it really is too much for me.

My last T liked chocolate, so I would bring her a bag of Milky Ways/Snickers every holiday....I would eat one if she did, but she always asked me, "do you mind if I eat one?"...Of course not, I wanted her too

Soup and crackers, which is quite funny when i really think of it, too much attention away from me....now if she were an Uber T whom could really help me w/ my issues, maybe.....