Alot of our suffering stems from our thought processes, many of which are distorted. If we can learn to rewire our thoughts, by changing our perceptions, we can eventually learn to decrease our emotional anguish.


So with that being said, maybe, just maybe, if you give it a lighter, more accurate and hopefully more manageable label, it wouldn't be such a heavy burden for you to bare.


IMHO, you seem to get infatuated easily, and for many people, especially in the age group you described, that's their normal.


You may probably be experiencing this infatuation on a much grander scale though, which is what makes it so understandably hard to deal with.


Idk, if it were me, my thought process or the one I would adopt at least, would be:


It's only infatuation, its not actually love, so what's the big deal, its not as serious as it feels...


Or something along those lines to help keep me grounded.


I can't really comment on the pain factor because I don't have a very clear picture, so if I may ask, what exactly is causing you to suffer regarding these situations you describe?