Lost in Plain Sight, I am sorry you are hurting so much right now. Mother's day made me really depressed too...

Having a counselor to help with communication with your son is a good idea. I'm sorry you felt it was not a positive experience.

Sometimes counselors feel it is best to schedule one on one meetings - just between him/her and your son - to enable him to talk about different issues.

I have trouble believing that a counselor would deliberately want to hurt you and your family...

Your son is likely having a difficult time coping with how he is feeling and this has caused him to say some hurtful things to you.

Would you be able to set up another meeting with the counselor, your son and yourself together?