I expect you'll get a ton of replies to your question ThingWithFeathers and I can't help thinking you are either very lucky, have a brilliant T or don't need to be in therapy as much as some others lol, if you haven't yet experienced any rupture or falling out with T. I hope you never do, I think the whole thing of rupture and repair as something necessary and normal in relationships is way too overrated.

As for me, I have to say there were very few times when ruptures that occurred between various Ts and I were ever properly resolved. And in most cases, a serious enough rupture that I couldn't rationalize away or entirely blame myself for would send me packing.

Having said that, I'm all for trying to sort things out (even if I'm the one leaving, I still experience that as abandonment and rejection) but when the other doesn't seem to hear what I'm trying to tell them, then it does all get very pointless.