I have only had a minor blip or two with the second one I see. I felt she blew off something I am dead serious about about and had wanted to talk about. I told her I needed to reevaluate the use of therapy,she asked why, I told her about the blowing off -she apologized and said she had not realized I was so serious about the topic, but would try to get it right if I wanted to try again. So I did and she did and we went on.

I was rarely not in conflict with the first until I got her to stop talking. Now the only time there is rupturing is when I soften (her word) and let her talk. With this one, she does not handle tne information as to how she failed well, she makes promises she cannot keep even for a week, she never remembers anything and is useful because she stays back and does not care.

I have never found ruptures to create the remarkable things got better after that some people seem to have.