This is fairly minor compared to some of the other ruptures people have mentioned, but I'll share anyway. I was in a kind of bad place after talking to my advisor in my master's program. My husband didn't seem to get why I was upset and neither did my mom, who I talked to that day. I thought surely my T would make me feel better. But she actually said to me, "I know you want me to validate your feelings right now, but I'm not going to validate you." I think her point was to make me think more about my feelings and examine why I had them. But it felt crushing to me. After the appointment, I sat in my car in the parking lot and cried for like 20 minutes.

H and I had an appointment with our marriage counselor like two days later. Finally, he validated me and made me feel better. I asked him after the appointment if I could possibly have a couple individual sessions with him talk about about personal stuff, not anything marital, because I felt like what I needed right then was his style of therapy rather than my T's. He said he'd feel more comfortable if I just stuck with my T for individual therapy (note: for those who've read my threads on transference with him, this was a few months before that all came out, and I hadn't realized it was going on yet).

Then I felt horribly guilty for trying to switch to him for a bit instead of my regular T, who I'd been seeing for a couple years, so I ended up crying in my car over *that*. Plus I felt a bit rejected by MC. Left a long message apologizing to my T (since I figured he'd invariably mention it to her--I'd signed a paper allowing them to communicate about me). She called back and said it was OK, then apologized for making me so upset with the not validating me. She said she'd misread me and the situation.

I think that experience led me to feel closer to my T and more comfortable with her. She said she was glad I'd expressed my anger with her, too. It led to a more honest relationship.