I think you need to reframe how you are looking at that past experience. God protected you from that bad marriage by having your xhusband choose to not come over when you couldn't get him there.

You were just as responsible for that bad marriage as your xhusband was. You weren't wise & you jumped into that marriage:
Personally I would be so THANKFUL that it didn't turn out....you never would have had the opportunity to grow & to become NOT naive. Most of the time we only grow after we have been hurt because otherwise there is no need...& you definitely needed to grow & to become wise & to learn how to stand up for what you believe & not allow others to manipulate you. If you had never gone through this you never would have learned & these are important things for EVERYONE to know.

It's important to grow so I would be very thankful for that opportunity & I wouldn't be so angry at your xhusband for not being what you wanted in a husband because then you would have stayed that naive, able to be manipulated person that you were.....& that's not what God wants either.

You chose a religion not even truly knowing what it was all about just so you could have a husband.....that is definitely NOT what God wants from us either. You are growing into a strong independent person who knows what you believe & why.....so that you won't get manipulated in the future....be thankful for the experience & that you didn't end up in a worse situation. It's a lot easier to end a marriage that really wasn't that long in the first place & that you know from his side was only for a green card & not for you......& in reality.....you can't honestly LOVE someone that you don't even really know....so what you thought was love really was nothing but your infatuation playing tricks on you & that marriage not working out....was only your wishful thinking that didn't work.

God saved you by not letting the green card marriage take place & gave you the chance that you needed to grow & to know yourself better an opportunity you wouldn't have had if that marriage would have worked out......you were protected from that happening & it was a good thing that it didn't. Yes, there are creeps all over this world...but now you are learning the red flags to look for & learn that you can't marry someone you don't know & you can't just jump into a religion because they are not all the same........learning & becoming wise is what God wants from us so that we won't be fooled & sometimes he even protects us from ourselves.

You can remember what your xhusband did but only from a learning point of view.......would you really want to be where you would have been if the marriage would have worked out?.....or where you protected from what would have been a really horrible marriage. Actually I don't think your xhusband felt that he was treating you cruel because his goal in the marriage wasn't the same as yours. His goal was to use you to get where he wanted to be & so he was trying to arrange a marriage that would do that for him......so you were just another arranged marriage. You read into that marriage what you goals were while it doesn't sound like he really ever made it known that the marriage was anything more than for getting his green card from you...you were just hoping that it was more.

God protected you by not allowing it to work out....there are much better plans for your life.....remember, patience is one of the important things that we need because God will provide when he knows the time is right & sometimes we have to go through these difficult situations to learn the things that we need to learn.....you are growing & learning & allowing God to lead your life......the rest will come & you life will be blessed....prayers for your understanding & healing & growth in God