Thanks Fly,

I have attended 2 ALanon meetings so far and plan to keep attending. I do find it very helpful and hear the similar horror stories and it scares me.

I can see his denial now even though he does think he is in control over it. I now know better.

I am hoping the fear and shock of suddenly being on his own and being responsible for his own life will wake him up before he gets way to messed up.

I just knew after attending the meetings that It would take more than just me nagging him about it. He needed more than that, and I needed relief from the pain he was causing me. I have learned through Alanon that the lies and deceit are the outcomes of his addictions and really are not intentful but It still hurts me.