I'm a 34 year old female, who JUST discovered I'm APD. I just thought I was a very insightful not so terrible narcissistic type who got my ego bruised easily and had social anxiety, however I am definitely APD.
I relate to these issues at work. I was recently considering stepping into a management position at work and this is how I discovered my APD. I had to be VERY honest with myself and ask myself if I can keep up the facade of being "normal" in a management position. My current position affords me the option to hide my APD very well. However, the thought of not keeping up the facade scares the crap out of me. Also, I don't want to deal with employees thinking poorly of me or getting fired because I avoid dealing with problems that managers deal with. I don't want people not respecting me.
I'm disappointed in myself that I lack the personality needed to advance in my career. It's depressing.