What struck me about your post was the wide concept of openness and support that you seem to be offering him. On the one hand, obviously openness and support is really important in a relationship. On the other hand, though, there is the competing thought that a lover cannot be a therapist. There may come a point, or maybe it has already come, where it would be better for you, him, and the relationship that he speak to a therapist, rather than you, about what is on his mind.

Do you see a therapist?