Bill3 - yeah that's really true, I totally agree... I guess it is a pretty broad concept of support. I have gone to a therapist for years but currently I can't afford one. My boyfriend just finished going to a therapist for a while and it really helped him, he says he doesn't need it anymore. That's the exact distinction I'm concerned about... am I unwittingly expecting him to be my therapist? I'm trying to find a way of measurement, a point of reference, to know if what I'm wanting is reasonable or not.